“I
made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I entertain thoughts against a
virgin? (Job 31:1)
Sexual
immorality is on the increase all over the world. Adultery is fast becoming the
norm and men of God are also joining the club. Married women are not left out,
many are having secret lovers and emotional affairs are becoming the order of
the day.
The
rate at which immorality is increasing is alarming! It is spreading fast into
every nook and cranny and children are also being initiated into the club. It's
no news that 4, 5 years old kids now have sex with each other. Staying sexually
pure these days is becoming a Herculean task.
One
of the reasons people fall flat into illicit sex is over confidence. The stupid
belief that you can be free around the opposite sex and nothing would happen!
A
lot will happen! One of the ways you can stay sexually pure whether married or
single these end time is to set strict boundaries. If you are too careless
around the opposite sex, you will fall flat on your face! That is the truth.
The ealier you believe this and work on it, the better. You can't be careless
around the opposite sex and hope to stay sexually pure, set boundaries!
There
are some people who can't be your friends, raise the standard. Any body can
call you names, that's their headache, you have your destiny to protect. As a
rule, I don't make friends with liars, gossips and jealous people. They make
life so complicated. If you believe in illicit sex, we can't be friends,
period!
Monitor
your chats. Don't allow anybody send you flirty messages, no matter how
innocent it sounds, warn them and if they refuse to stop, block them!
Limit
the hugs and touches. If your hugging anointing is only for me, I want none of
it.
Don't
allow anybody call you pet names (except your close family members and same sex
friends), it doesn't make any sense. Pet names turn the opposite on, if you
don't know that, know it right now.
Be
sensitive to attractions. Don't be naive around the opposte sex, know when a
man/ woman is sexually attracted to you and move back from that person. If they
focus too much on your physique and body, they are sexually attracted to you,
move back.
Know
when you are sexually attracted to someone and move back. It's perfectly normal
to have chemistry for someone. Marrying the greatest man on earth or the most
beautiful, virtous woman in the universe will not automatically stop you from
being attracted to someone else. Know when the thought of another man/ woman
get you excited and move back.
Don't
jump at new relationships. Give it time. Study the person, know what they stand
for, see if your core values are compatible, if not, move back!
Leadership
attracts all kinds of people. If you are a leader or you are gifted, talented
or intelligent, the opposite sex will show more interest in you, be careful
whom you allow to get close to you.
Accepts
gifts with care. Men don't joke with their time and money. If he spends so much
time and money on you especially when you do not ask, he may one day ask for
sex. Stop begging men for money. Work with your two hands and raise your
standard. Men will respect and honour you for it.
Work
on your marriage. Fix the problem as soon as possible or else you get attracted
to someone who gives you what you lack in your marriage, adultery is the
result.
Be
prayerful, be watchful. Jesus says "watch and pray that ye may not fall
into temptation..."
Don't
stay with the opposite sex in a dark or lonely room.
Don't
counsel the opposite sex on a bed in a lonely room.
Avoid
provocative dresses and pictures. Let your spouse or parents advise you on what
is okay for you.
Mind
the pictures you post on the social media, if it is getting unecessary opposite
sex attention, delete it.
Don't
visit the opposite sex alone, especially at night. It doesn't make sense.
These
and more are the things you need to do to stay sexually pure in this 21st
century.
People
may laugh at you, it doesn't matter. They may call you a neurotic, psychotic,
fanatic, over sensitive or paranoid, don't give a damn! Your destiny is too
precious to waste on the altar of sin. Avoid friends who make fun of holiness
and make friends with people who appreciate purity and holiness.
Finally,
avoid the second look, as far possible. I agree perfectly with Job on his
resolution never to look lustfully at any lady. Yes, you can avoid the second
look. Set your boundaries and never allow anyone to compromise your holiness.
Stay blessed.
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