I Peter 3:1-2, 7 NKJV
“Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some
do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct
of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by
fear.
Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving
honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together
of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be
hindered.”
There are mistakes and there are mistakes
with dire consequences.
Some mistakes can take a lifetime to recover
from, and marriage is one place where we make many irrecoverable
mistakes; largely because of ignorance.
Many people go into marriage
with all the ignorance available in the world. Also, there are many who
dare to make some mistakes due to pride as well, and the list is
endless.
There are things that people do which seriously ruins any
chance of further marital togetherness. There are mistakes that are just
a one-time-thing, but very difficult to forget.
There are also mistakes
that have gone beyond mistakes but are now bad habits and evil
lifestyles. Here are some of the ruining mistakes that people make in
their marriage.
1. The Mistake of Careless Talking: Marriage is
mostly communication without which there will be no marriage. Therefore,
how well and how timely you talk determines the longevity of your
marriage.
Words are so powerful that they pierce like darts and
penetrate like swords. What you say will linger in the mind of your
spouse for a very very long time.
In other words, a marriage is not
ruined by what was said today, but eventually got ruined by either an
accumulation of many terrible things that were said over time, or by one
particular evil word (seed) that has grown into a massive tree.
In
moments of anger and frustration many people have been forced to say
very unprintable things. Some men have called their wives names like
prostitute, gold digger, good for nothing or even witch.
These words
don't just go away from the minds of the women because you claim you
didn't really mean them. Wives get to brood over these words till they
literally become living organisms in them.
And in no time, their
behaviours begin to change; it goes from bad to worse till there is no
more marriage. Such a man broke the law Peter tried teaching us about
the effect of dishonouring the wife. 1Peter 3:7.
For the men, the woman comes under pressure and begins to insult. One major way a woman demonstrates lack of submission is by her words. When a woman's heart is full and she lets it out through her mouth, the man could die of heart attack.
But in many cases, he would want her out of his life by ending
the marriage or may just simply shut her out of his life even while
still in the marriage.
It is very hard for a man to forgive a verbal
insult from his wife, and it is even better it never happened at all.
Michal is a very potent example of this error that didn't just cost her
the marriage but her happiness.
Be quick to hear, but be slow to speak.
Understand that the life and death of your marriage is connected to your
mouth (Proverbs 18:20-21).
Assignment/Prayer
i. Thank God for this word today.
ii. Repent of every evil speaking over your spouse. And then call your
spouse, apologize and reverse those words uttered in anger.
iii. Trust God to help your mouth, and ask Him to help you speak the right words at the right time and for the right reasons.
Nugget
Marriage is mostly communication, therefore, how well and how timely you talk determines the longevity of your marriage.
Marriage is mostly communication, therefore, how well and how timely you talk determines the longevity of your marriage.
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