What kind of wife do I wish to marry? What kind of man can I
submit to for life? What kind of marriage do I desire to have? These are basic
questions that must have solid answers before any attempt to be involved in a
relationship that would eventually lead to marriage in the future.
“This has nothing to do with physical appearance, or any
physical attributes but should centre on spiritual attributes, character and
possession of a common ground for mutual understanding”
Take a look at the prayer of Abraham’s servant:
“And he made his camels to kneel down
without the city by a well of water at the time of the evening, even the time
that the women go out to draw water. And he said, O Lord God of my master
Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and shew kindness unto my
master Abraham. Behold, I stand here by the well of water; and the daughters of
the men of the city come out to draw water: And let it come to pass, that the
damsel to whom I shall say, let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may
drink; and she shall say, Drink, and will give thy camels drink also: let the
same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I
know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master.” Genesis 24:11-14 KJV.
Taking a close look at the scripture
above. Before the time of that event, Abraham had already been blessed by God
who promised to make him great. God told him that anybody that blessed him was
blessed and anybody that cursed him was cursed. At that time too, Abraham had
gone to battle with about 314 trained servants from his own house; that is,
children born in his house, they had grown and became young able bodied men who
were capable to protect and defend Abraham’s territory and estates. Their
fathers, mothers, and younger ones were still in the house, some of them had
married and also had children, so, there was a huge crowd already in Abraham’s
house and it was Isaac’s right to inherit every one of them. All those servants
were to come under Isaac and it meant that, any women that Isaac would marry
would be a woman that will be able to accommodate people.
Thus, the servant analyzed, “what kind of woman will be
suitable for my master’s son?” As a person, there is unavoidable need to as a
matter of importance take cognizant analysis of this, “what kind of woman will
be suitable for me as an individual?” As a young lady, “what kind of a man will
be suitable for me as an individual?” We should learn to digest this bitter
truth and postulation; “Do not marry a GOOD Wo(man), marry the RIGHT Wo(man).”
(Ineme Dendison 2018)
The hallmarks to aforementioned lead to self-discovery and
purpose in life, which requires you to understand who you are and understand
what your destiny is. Get to know God’s plan and purpose for your life. If you
have a call to be a missionary, then you are probably not going to marry a lady
who has a vision to be a movie star or a model. If your destiny is to be a
lawyer, an Engineer, or a Doctor, you should not be searching for a lady who
intends to be a missionary or who wants to work for God on a full-time basis at
a location different from yours.
After Isaac and Rebecca had married, they had two sons, Esau
and Jacob. Esau was an outdoor man, always on the move and Isaac his father was
closer to him because, Isaac was a very quiet man, he liked to stay indoors.
The day Isaac’s wife was being brought to him, he was outside in the field
meditating. He wasn’t a kind of person that talked much. Rebecca on the other
hand, liked Jacob because Jacob was like Isaac, he was also quiet and
contemplative. While Esau was always in the bush hunting, Jacob was often at
home. Invariably, when you analyze this, it means that, Isaac was going to need
a wife who would accommodate and complement his unique nature and destiny. He
needed a woman that was outgoing, an extrovert kind of person. Somebody who
could accommodate a lot of people. Someone who could be able to attend to
larger number of persons at a time. That is why the servant said, “when I go,
the woman to whom I say, give me water to drink and she will give me to drink
and also attend to ALL my camels, is the one I need.” He was praying for the
kind of person that would fit the purpose, destiny and nature of Isaac in
marriage. Know who you are and go for who will match you. Marry the RIGHT
Wo(man), do not marry a GOOD Wo(man).
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