If you have a clear sense of purpose and sacrifice, it gives you a better future...
Women hate to pair their life with men who don't fight more than once. It beats down any woman who watch her own husband try once and gives up. When a woman watches a man stands up each time he is beaten down and gets back into the ring, she is emotionally drawn to him and could do anything to support him win his fight.
God created women as 'Helpmeet' for men who take action and never stop half way. Even when God got angry with Adam and sent him away from Eden, he packed up fast and his wife followed him because she saw in him a man who does not want to waste his time wondering what could happen next. Adam showed a sense of readiness to do a new thing. Most times, your wife is not angry that you failed but you took it for the end of your world.
Have you watched a fight on television with a woman? Maybe you need to try it today. A woman will always stand up for the man who is trying to win even if all the losses is on him. This is what women do in relationship too. They want to stand up for the man who wants to put his failure behind him and try to win again.
Women are not naturally drawn to men who quit. Someone once said to me, 'My girl is heartless. The moment I closed my business, she left me'. I asked him, 'What did she say to you before you closed down your business? He replied, 'She asked me not to but find a way to keep it but the problem was too much. I had to close the business'.
The young man felt that he just did the right thing but I said these few words to him. 'Your woman wanted to see you put up a fight but you never did. Women can only trust their future in the hands of men they watch fight and fight until they find a space to win'. I asked him again, 'What have you been doing since you closed your business?, and he said, 'Nothing'. That was where the problem kicked in and he never saw it coming.
A good woman wants to meet you a great thinker and stay in your life seeing you as a result oriented man. Adam had a purpose before God gave him a wife. The fact that one can lose a business or job does not really mean anything to women but what matters most to them is when you have put yourself in what you just lost. The truth is, most times, we get into our experiences and stay perfectly comfortably inside them. Letting what you are living inside to live inside you is a big storm winning over your future.
Have you not met someone who told you five years back that he lost his job and five years later, he is still telling you the same? Does it really mean that the job he lost was the only thing he was naturally designed to do? Five years is enough for a sacked bricklayer to become a cab driver or even get into a bigger job.
If what you usually do is to stand before your woman and tell her that it is impossible for you to move forward, you are scaring her and making it possible for her to think that its either she is unfortunate or you are.
Women love men who leave house and come back with a cup of frozen ice cream and don't say to them, 'A friend bought it for me' but rather love to hear, 'I remember you love ice cream and I have decided to be getting you at least a cup everyday'. Every woman wants her husband to truly act successful.
Recession is not your family heritage and why would it become a dinning table and bedroom discussion. Why would recession become a good excuse when men like you are still building new houses? Recession is a way weak men hide their purpose and love it.
Even when you are married to a rich woman, she is always expecting you to have a rich life of yours. Women hate men who lean on someone's value and get too happy about it. Sometimes, women fast and pray that their husbands get sacked so they could start their own company. Every good woman I know wants their husband to take the lead and not follow anyone's lead.
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