Proverbs 26:2 KJV
“As the bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the curse causeless shall not come”.
Things don’t just happen. There is always a reason behind every occurrence we see in our lives and around us. That is why doctors carry out what is called diagnosis. It is all in an attempt to discover the root causes of sicknesses and diseases, so that when treated it would have been dealt with from the root. There is no smoke without fire, and so there is no quarrel or disharmony without a root cause. Some of the causes of marital disharmony are as follows:
1. PRIDE: Even God hates a proud look (Proverbs 6:17)
A proud person will always cause offences (Proverbs. 13:10). This is because; proud people never see their wrong. Proud people are always right and never wrong, and they must always win an argument. They are too proud to say “I am sorry.” Proud people have the capacity to sustain a quarrel for a very long time, by malice.
2. BITTERNESS: This is an off-shoot of pride (Hebrews 12:15)
Bitterness is an evil feeling on the inside; it is a feeling of intense hurt. This kind of feeling usually would not go until there is revenge. It is a vengeful spirit. Bitterness usually results in Malice.
3. MALICE: Malice naturally comes with the package (Ephesians 4:31)
It is difficult to see bitterness and not see malice. One of the ways malice is described in the Bible is wickedness (1 Corinthians 5:8). It is the act of tormenting your partner with silence treatment.
Malice is a product of a hateful spirit. It is hatred that sustains malice. Satan loves the breakdown of communication in your home via malice. The best time Satan or any other enemy of yours have to operate and harm you is when you are not communicating anymore with your spouse.
NOW, WHATEVER YOU DO, KEEP TALKING TO YOURSELVES.
4. OTHER EXTERNAL FACTORS: Family members from both sides, i.e. in-laws and Close friends.
Don’t let any close person to you who seeks to control your family to hang around too close to you.
Enjoy harmony with your spouse as you observe the four disharmony factors discussed today.
Action Points/Prayer
-Thank God for today’s word.
-Read through again.
-Make prayer points of all the steps.
Nugget
It is wickedness when you torment your partner with the silence treatment. Please, whatever you do, keep talking to yourselves.
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