1 Thessalonians 5:18 KJV
“In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you”.
One very common practice we see amongst married people is ingratitude. Marriage has a way of making married couples take things for granted. Whilst many people praise God for them in admiration, they themselves get to see almost no reason why they should be thankful. As such, they end up being ungrateful to God who gave them to each other and they become ungrateful to their spouses as well.
Let me make it clear that your marriage will work better when you learn to be grateful for your spouse and to your spouse. You will have to stop the bad habit of putting all their wrong doings and negative sides ahead of everything else. Thankful people seek for what to celebrate in people and not what to condemn or cry about. If you seek to find good in your spouse you will see a lot, and if you seek bad, you will find more than enough of it too. There is no perfect man or woman, as a result there is no perfect husband or wife. But God has committed Himself to perfecting what concerns us, and your spouse is chief on that list.
Several years ago, my wife visited a family and saw how the husband in that house harassingly spoke to his wife and she became grieved and ashamed at the same time. So, when she arrived home, she immediately began to thank me profusely for not talking to her rashly. She said “you don’t shout at me, you don’t insult me, you don’t beat me up, etc.” And when I sought to know why she did all that, she then related the story of her visit. You see, many times we always get to believe that others have better and greater marriages than we do, not knowing that the grass is not so green in the other house. Make up your mind today and determine to thank God for what you have.
Action Points/Prayer
i. Make a note today of all the great things you know about your spouse and appreciate your spouse for them.
ii. Make a note of all the negative things about your spouse and thank God for their perfection according to Psalm 138:8.
Nugget
Your marriage will work better when you learn to be grateful for your spouse and to your spouse.
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