By Patience Ekpima
I
may not be the right person to write this, but because of misinterpretations I
can no longer resist the push.
Husband
scarcity has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If
you go to PRAYER HOUSES, majority of the intentions are prayer of a LIFE
PARTNER. And this calls for Concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our
mothers and grand mothers, was there really much of a "HUSBAND
SCARCITY" problem? Or maybe then the women had values and we're prepared
to build a home and not park into a built home.
Then
once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he
goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciate him and helps him
to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see
as "HUSBAND SCARCITY" for our selves.
Today,
the reverse is the case. Ask an AVERAGE GIRL to define her DREAM HUSBAND, you
get things like " HE HAS TO BE TALL, HANDSOME, FAIR, DARK, AND RICH, OWN A
HOUSE AT LEAST, AND BE PRESENTABLE "AND THEN SHE ADDS GOD FEARING IN OTHER
NOT TO SOUND SO WORLDLY.
Then
check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that
standard and you will see the problem. You hear girls say I cannot suffer in my
father's house and then go and start suffering with a man. What a wonderful
dream! What if from the beginning you have everything you want and there is no
suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes
suffering. Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to
start small and end big than to start big and end small.
The
problem is that, the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is
virtually the same. 50 GIRLS want the SAME kind of man, and the man that fits
what they want is just ONE MAN, and the man can only pick one, then what
becomes of 49 OTHERS? They simply start lamenting of HUSBAND SCARCITY.
Another
irony of our time is that, it is hard, due to the face of our economy, to find
a man who possesses all qualities these ladies want legally (except those
involved in internet fraud), even the number of those in internet fraud is not
enough to match all those searching for already made husbands.
The
easiest way to get married now is to change your view of who a husband is.
A
HUSBAND is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really
actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the
woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled. marriage is not a
poverty alleviation program, it is a mission of building the family of God here
on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is way out
into Bondage.
Women
are home builders not home warmers. Don't confuse a man's path with his
destiny. Where he is today may only be a route to where God has destined him to
be tomorrow.
Another
truth is that, you may be the only fast means to that his destination.
Join
in alleviating husband scarcity.
Pick up the right values. I am not saying u should pick anyone that comes your
way and talks of marriage, not all men are marriage materials.
What
am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisition
or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical.
What makes a man who he is, is not what he owns or how looks, it is what he is
made up of. And that which he is made up of is most times not seen with the
physical eyes. Only it's effects can be seen.
MARRIAGE
IS A PERMANENT THING. WHATEVER IS SEEN IS TEMPORAL AND THAT WHICH IS NOT SEEN
IS PERMANENT.
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