Ephesians 6:4 KJV
“And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”
After due consideration, I have concluded that the best place to train
people for marriage is in the home of their parents. So, the best
marriage school there can ever be is the examples that people see and
draw from the marriages of their parents.
My reasons are very simple. It
is the duty of parents to raise the children in the admonition of the
Lord, and secondly, parents have been saddled with the responsibility of
training the children in the way they should go, and that they would
not depart from it when they are old.
Please note, that God has not
given this kind of assignment to any other person, organization or
entity anywhere in the world, except for parents.
It is only a parent
that can program the life of a child to the point where he or she will
be structured to be that way for life. This is a lot of power if you
would ask me.
However, many parents have not known this, as such
they have rather been engaged in "training down" the children instead of
training them up.
Whatever you do or say for a child to observe, is
either a training up or a training down. You are either building the
child's future or destroying it.
And of course, there are many ways to
train a child; children can be trained by instructions or teachings,
they can also be trained by exposing them to church, to mentors and by
formal education; as in sending them to school.
But the most powerful way to train a child is by examples. What they see you do will stay with them for far much longer than the things you say to them.
The
examples of parents will always end up becoming the principles of the
children. Your marriage is the best marriage school your children can
ever attend.
I have seen families where the children are not saved, and
do not even know much of the scriptures, yet every one of them have
great and powerful marriages. This I have always traced to the marriages
of their parents.
Let it be clearly known that all you do and have been
doing for your children to see have been a marriage school for them.
Your children will inevitably behave like you in their marriages.
They
will treat their spouses the way you have been treating your own spouse
(their mother or father). And when they grow up, they will not depart
from it.
It is therefore a lot of wisdom to make sure your marriage is a
model to your children to train them up and not to bring them down.
Invest into your children's marriages today by exemplifying the life for
them to see.
Settle all kinds of misunderstandings, misgivings and ill
feelings today, and know that you are now coaching your next generation.
Receive grace and wisdom in Jesus Name.
Assignment/Prayer
i. Thank God for today's word.
ii. Repent of every time you were a bad teacher to your children by not showing them the right examples.
iii. Ask God for plenty of grace to enable you live the life for your children to see.
i. Thank God for today's word.
ii. Repent of every time you were a bad teacher to your children by not showing them the right examples.
iii. Ask God for plenty of grace to enable you live the life for your children to see.
Nugget
The examples of parents will always end up becoming the principles of the children. Invest into your children's marriages today by exemplifying the life for them to see.
The examples of parents will always end up becoming the principles of the children. Invest into your children's marriages today by exemplifying the life for them to see.
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